Since I have become super open with everyone about my mental health, especially with the circumstances that happened in the summer… I know I have scared a lot of people and I know people still worry and I know it’s because they care. I feel like those closest to me have been effected the most. A big thing I am facing right now is those people now need me to need them (though I am in the best place right now and I am happy) . I try my best to see it from their point of view but how can I be fully successful and independent on the road to recovery if people aren’t letting me grow or do things without them knowing (again, I know it’s cause they cared and I worried them)? I feel like because of this, this is why I doubt myself . This is the reason that I believe I can’t do things or that I can’t be on my own. I am so use to being kept in this protective circle or safe blanket that to go out side the boundaries is almost terrifying. This is one of the biggest things holding me back from moving forward.
Another thing that is holding me back from officially moving forward is my anxiety and overthinking. It’s so completely hard to deal with sometimes. I make assumptions and then go from one point to another .. it’s a never ending cycle of this horrible doom-like thinking. It’s a huge web! I try my best to use methods like the ABC METHOD, when it comes to my overthinking/bad thoughts and feelings.. it’s seems to help bring me back to rational thinking.
I have a habit of living in the past. Sometimes I find myself at war with staying in the past versus moving forward. I feel like if I move on and look to the future, I will forget about certain things or people – this is a huge fear of mine. I also tend to think what may have previously happened in the past will happen again (this goes for the bad). I use to believe that I didn’t deserve anything good or to be happy because I was living in the dark place for so long. As soon as I would see some light, it faded away. I know that this, of course, is not true but I still find myself sometimes getting myself to believe this again. It’s a work in progress.
Lastly, I am really scared that I will end up back at rock bottom and I am really worried that I will fail. Self doubt is a dream killer. I need to remind myself constantly of everything I have achieved and more. I know what I have done and I know what I am capable of .. I just tend to forget this when I need to remember it the most.
Recovery is a long journey. I am trying to be patient and to keeping learning as I go. As long as I stay on the happy road, I am good to go. As I always say, I am falling back in love with life again and it feels amazing.
Love, Sarah.